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I thought last week would bring some regularity to my blogging since it was a recovery week. Turns out, I just used the extra freed-up time to do super exciting things like stay at the office late, mow my lawn, and nap.
So to recap, the past few weeks have been a lot of me looking like this:
And a lot of my bubby looking like this:
Recovery weeks are good in theory. My legs were trashed, they needed a break. My life needed tending to, too. And, well, the bubby was pretty neglected. So, again, in theory, all good. But, it was also a nightmarish forrecasting of what is to come post Ironman.
And, sadly, I knew this would happen. I really did.
It’s happened many times before. When I was a sprinter in high school, our 5 mile runs were my “oh my gosh i can’t believe I ran that long, I’m such a rockstar” long runs. And then in college, I graduated to two-a-days and 8 to 10 mile long runs. And then I ran my first marathon, and everything under a marathon seemed like cake. Like no big deal.
And last week, I had about 8 hours of training to do. And I was bored. I mean not bored, really, because I have plenty of things that I love to spend my time doing. But I was antsy. I felt weird going for a three or four mile run and being done for the day. I hadn’t worked myself out to the point of exhaustion and I felt…dare I say…lazy.
Yep. 8 hours of swimming, biking, and running, and I felt lazy.
How fucked up is that?
Pretty fucked up. I get that. I do. Cognitively. Unfortunately, I still feel that way, even if my cognition says “Pen, you are a crazy person.” I can only imagine what it is going to be like after September 12.
I worry–and I know many of those close to me do too–that this insane level of working out that I’ve been doing this summer is going to become the norm. Because, well, it is the norm for me now. And anything less seems silly. Like I will be out of shape if I just do half-ironmen next summer.
Even sillier? I don’t feel like I’m in that good of shape. Yes, I am training my butt off (figuratively. unfortch, not literally). Yes, I know that I’m in better shape than 90% of the US. But it doesn’t feel that way. I don’t feel fast. I don’t feel strong. I just feel normal. I feel like normal Penny.
I struggle to find someone to talk about this with because most people just dismiss it. They say I’m being silly or they think I’m fishing for compliments. And I SWEAR, I’m NOT. I genuinely, sitting here on my couch, feel like I’m not in good shape. I’m in normal shape. I’m “in shape” as a normal person. Not iron-person shape. Hell, not even the great shape I felt I was in after the Chicago Marathon last year.
I guess the point is, I expect there will be a great deal of internal struggle post Ironman. And also, I’m crazy.
Anyone else ever had problems with perspective?
A public defender super heroine by day, I am a cupcake baker extraordinaire by night. And come weekend, I am an IronPerson. I deal with an NPR addiction daily and I dream of one day having Carl Kasell on my answering machine. I strive to be the best fur-mommy I can be, and when I have time, I'm learning to be a grownup.
25 Responses for "Pen’s Law of Relativity."
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Dunning%E2%80%93Kruger_effect
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i’ve had problems with perspective before. i think everyone does. i tend to get very caught up in things and just can’t see the big picture.
but big picture: you are awesome and so totally NOT lazy
I think we all go through this problem. I’m doing distances now that I wanted to kill myself during when I was in high school (I was also a sprinter and field events champ haha) and I know i’m in better shape then a lot of people, definitely any of my friends, but I don’t feel that way. Don’t worry, you’re not crazy and I’m sure you’d kick my ass in just about anything right now.
Absolutely! My advice is to set some aggressive Half IM and/or marathon goals for next season- so, still insane and tough training, but not quite as time consuming. Eventually I bet you’ll find life filling in the gaps.
OMG. Perspectives. Girl, I know! Although I’m training for half your distance, I still feel like I’m out of shape. People think I’m crazy, but this is just the way I feel! I have to keep telling myself that I AM in fact crazy and to enjoy my training and enjoy the time I have NOT training.
Good luck!
I never feel like I’m in shape, even when I run long distances. It’s weird how your mind does that, huh?
Don’t get too stressed, sounds like your doing great!! I know you encourage me to do more just reading your blog.
I think it’s totally normal. I feel like I haven’t done anything if I haven’t run or lifted hard for at least an hour. To most people that’s insane, but it’s all in your perspective. I think there’s a part of you who is going to really enjoy having extra time to do the other things you love, and that part is going to help you return to sanity after the IM.
I thought you were awesome when you ran “oh my gosh” 5 miles in high school. I still think so. I always will, because you always will be. Those are my thoughts, which are not distorted by the Dunning-Kruger effect.
I’ve never ran anything more than a half marathon, so I’m sure my experiences with relativity aren’t quite up to your measures, but I definitely know what you mean regardless. I think the key is not to stress about it, and keep telling yourself you’re in great shape and you’re doing amazing things.
I go through the same struggles with weight lifting and exercising in general. The more you do, the more you want to do, and the less the old normal seems good enough. I just had a rest week too, and it was brutal. Crazy? Yes.
Just make sure you have some loving people around to support you post- IM. You’ll do great, yes, but after training and focusing on one thing like that for so long, there is bound to be some mental “issues” that emerge afterwards. Put it on the blog, we’ll soak up what we can for you!
A couple of thoughts:
- Your mom is brilliant. Workout out 20 hours a week doesn’t make you any awesomer than working out five hours a week. It is a supplement to who you are, not your entire being.
- You don’t get out of shape after one week of tapering.
- Your dog still loves you even if she is a tiny bit neglected at the moment.
- Huge-ass volume doesn’t translate into fitness all the time. A five-miler can be just as brutal as a 20 miler if you crank up the intensity. Could be a new, less time-consuming challenge when the IM is over.
I know. I know….
I’m so glad you wrote this post. I know exactly what you’re going through. The IMOO will be my first IM too. You summarized my feelings exactly. I feel normal. I know I”m in shape but I feel slow. I think I’m ready. I hope I’m ready. But I don’t have an answer for you. The best thing someone said to me lately is: Trust in your training. Trust yourself.
And no…you’re not fishing for compliments…you’re just trying to adjust to this new normal.
I love this post. You nailed it. After graduating college and being done with my days as a “varsity athlete,” I had a mini-identity crisis. After the marathon I had this post-marathon listlessness. It can be tricky to balance your “athlete” self with the rest of yourself sometimes, and not just get utterly lost in it. Maybe after the IM you can take an honest break and then get into a different “kind” of shape for shorter distances?
Yep! Sunday after a ridiculously long training weekend the BF came into the bathroom while we were getting ready to go out for dinner pinching his stomach and saying how can I still have this when I’m working out as this much! And I was like I know! I was thinking the same thing…but , um I mean not about you, about me. It’s crazy how normal the endurance thing ends up seeming. I don’t feel particularly fit or fast just 3 weeks from IM. I think I’m starting to really get the concept of cummulative load and I think I’m going to start feel great once we move into taper mode very quick here!
I too felt like I wasn’t going to know what to do with myself when IM was over so I made a list of things I miss doing, like yoga and saturdays in coffee shops. I planned a trip to Costa Rica. And I signed up for IMCDA so I can start training again in December! I think like you I’ve reach the point where I can’t imagine my life any other way.
Oh, sweetheart — I feel for you. You are NOT alone in feeling this way among people who are serious athletes. For serious running training (right now, marathon), I get up to 45-55 mils a week. Coming back down from that is hard. I feel lazy. I feel fat. I feel weak. I feel totally ridiculous. Right now I am probably training 10 hours a week, and might build up to 15 (including yoga and strength). That’s probably nothing compared to you, but I do know exactly what you’re saying. You just have to trust that (a) your body really does need a break and (b) you are not being lazy at all.
And I would say your 90% estimate is wrong — you are probably fitter than 99.9% of Americans! Think up a few fun alternative activities you can consciously pursue in the times you aren’t training — take an art or music class, work in your garden, cook your way through a new recipe book, redecorate your house, fall in love with crossword puzzles, go to a bar or club (lol — definitely not something that happens during training). As long as I think up other things to do, I don’t end up feeling lazy. Works like a charm!
I will never know 100% exactly how you feel with regards to an IM, but I do understand different perspectives and I know you’ll get to a happy place after the IM! Over the past few years between some pretty intense weight training (creating my own routines and then doing P90X) and a few marathons (all of which were MUCH slower than yours) I’ve had a few moments where I’ve felt so intense and strong and “in shape.” But every time I’ve felt that way has been for a different reason and because I tried something new. So you may feel like 8 hours is being lazy right now, but there are so many possibilities out there for challenging yourself in new ways. Try rock climbing, try a boot camp, try boxing, try hiking. Just try something that challenges your body in a different way than swimming, biking, and running do. You’d be surprised at all of the different options out there!
I know exactly how you feel! Well, kinda. I’m not exactly training for an Ironman, although a marathon is pretty respectable as well. I’ve been on ten mile runs where I feel terribly out of shape…it’s hard to be out of shape and run ten miles! Even when I’m running fast I sometimes don’t FEEL in shape. I think our definition of what “in shape” means to us changes over time.
Although I do LOVE the comment from your mom.
Perspective? No. I tend to think I’m smarter, fitter and better looking than I actually am. I haven’t found any downside to that yet.
And, I can’t see the rest of you but you have WICKED shoulders. Rawwwwr HULK SMASH. And I agree with Ceci – sounds like you might just need a change in scenery, so to speak.
I had a WTF moment this morning when I rolled out of bed. My husband asked where I was going, and I said running. He asked how far, and I said, “Oh, just a ten mile recovery run.”
Yeah. Perspective. Hopefully I’ll get it back after this marathon is over!
I just think you’re amazing. We’ll just leave it at that!
I know the feeling you’re talking about. Granted, I dont workout like you do, but I still know what you mean. My boyfriend will tell me Im in such good shape, or make a comment about my muscles, and I think he’s full of crap. I just feel like me, not some superstar athlete. Maybe thats good though? Keeps us from getting to cocky.
I feel the same way. I feel not very in shape. I was hoping by this time 100 miles on the bike or 4000 in the pool would feel like a breeze. HAHA. Although the long runs are feeling easier, thank God for that.
A year ago when I committed to this, I imagined that I would have sooo much time to improve sooo much. A year isn’t that long though. You’re definitely not crazy or alone!
I definitely know what you are feeling. I’ve been struggling with this lately as well. I’m training more than I ever have but yet I still don’t feel like it’s enough.
You are doing Ironman WI right? I plan on volunteering at the race, hopefully I’ll see you on the course!
first of all your shoulders/arms look amazing. SEcond of all, you are right..i DONT know how you feel. My shins prevent me from even running 3 miles without pain so then I feel like a lazy ass and out of shape! I think you train/workout so much that your physical activity level is “skewed”!!! Good luck on the rest of your training and cheer up lady, you are far to smart and kick ass to feel guilty or anything like that.
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